Consiliere parentala

Consilierea parentala este un serviciu de suport, de ghidare sau de invatare oferit parintilor, in mod individual sau in grup.

Parintii pot beneficia de acest suport din partea unui specialist (specializat, de obicei, in terapia copilului si adolescentului, terapie de familie sau parentaj) in urmatoarele situatii:

  • atunci cand parintele doreste sa isi imbunatateasca relatia cu propriul copil;
  • atunci cand parintele devine constient ca foloseste niste modele relationale si de educatie invechite sau disfunctionale si doreste sa le schimbe;
  • atunci cand este coplesit de dificultatile si provocarile aparute in procesul de crestere a unui copil;
  • atunci cand copilul urmeaza un proces terapeutic individual si parintele are nevoie de indrumare si suport pentru a-l sustine pe copil in a depasi dificultatile prin care trece (mentionez aici ca terapia copilului nu se poate face eficient fara consilierea parintilor);
  • atunci cand cuplul parental trece printr-o criza si nu mai gaseste solutii;
  • cand toata familia trece printr-o criza sau un eveniment cu potential traumatic, care afecteaza intreaga dinamica relationala din familie;
  • atunci cand parintelui ii sunt contestate/luate in instanta drepturile parentale si trebuie sa le re-castige;
  • atunci cand parintele doreste sa adopte/a adoptat un copil (lista nu este exhaustiva).

A fi parinte este, indiferent daca este vorba de mama sau tata, o meserie permanenta, care poate aduce multa implinire pe plan emotional, mental sau social, dar in acelasi timp poate provoca si multa oboseala, frustrare, iesire severa din zona de confort sau chiar crize de identitate. In acest context, a apela la un specialist atunci cand are nevoie de suport, reprezinta o dovada de curaj si maturitate emotionala din partea parintelui.

Consilierul parental nu iti va spune cum sa iti cresti copilul, ci te va ajuta sa gasesti alte modele de relationare si uneori, alte solutii pentru blocajele aparute in relatia cu el sau ea. De asemenea, impreuna veti descoperi tipare preluate (de obicei in mod inconstient) din relatia pe care ai avut-o cu proprii parinti, tipare care iti pot si utile sau te pot sabota si pot dauna relatiei cu propriul copil. Impreuna veti hotari ce este de schimbat.

 

Parental counseling

Parental counseling is a suport service, but also a guidance and learning one offered to parents, in individual or group sessions.

Parents can benefit from this type of support offered by a specialist (usually specialized in child and adolescent therapy, family therapy or parenting), in the following situations:

  • when the parents wants to improve the relationship with their child/children;
  • when the parents become aware that they are using old and dysfunctional relational and educational models and wish to change them;
  • when parents become overwhelmed by the difficulties and challenges which can appear in the process of raising a child;
  • when the child is going to individual therapy and the parents needs support and guidance in how to better help the child overcome his difficulties (to be mentioned that child psychotherapy can’t be done in an efficient way without parental counselling);
  • when the parental couple is going through crisis and can’t find solutions anymore;
  • when the whole family is going through a crisis or a traumatic event, which affects the relational dynamic of the family;
  • when the parent has his parental rights argued/taken by legal court and needs to regain them;
  • when parents want to adopt/have adopted a child.

Being a parent, whether a mother or a father, is like a permanent job which can bring enormous emotional, mental and social fulfillment, but it can also become sometimes draining, frustrating, can be an unpleasant comfort zone push or it can even provoke identity crisis. In this contexts, asking a specialist’s support can represent a leap of faith, but also sign of emotional maturity.

The parental counselor will not tell you how to raise your child, but will support you in finding other relational models and, sometimes, other solutions for the blockages which can appear in the relationship with him or her. Also, together you will discover patterns taken (usually unconsciously) from the relationship you had with your own parents, patterns which can be useful or can damage the relationship with your child. Subsequently, you will decide together the changes which need to be made.

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